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Keeping Things Moving

In Gallivan's Travels, No Particular Path on January 30, 2024 at 4:14 pm

          No matter where I go, I’m always here.

One of my favorite poems is Mark Strand’s “Keeping Things Whole,” which begins:

  ”In a field/I am the absence/of field”

And concludes:

  ”We all have reasons/ for moving./I move/to keep things whole.”

I am sitting here, thinking about a trip that will have to be delayed a bit.  Life requires that sometimes.  We had planned on taking Gallivan, our 2019 class B camper van, on a five to six week trek from Rhode Island to New Mexico and Arizona.  Instead, we will be making a number of shorter trips in the East.  This is not a terrible thing, and the circumstances that require it are merely inconvenient, but it does provide me with the opportunity to write something I have been contemplating for a while.

There are, it seems to me, three reasons for traveling, which might also be called ways of traveling.

The first, of course, is to get to some other particular place than where you are now.  This I will call “destination travel.”  When we destination travel, there are almost always constraints of time, distance, and purpose that influence the traveling.  We know (if there is a deadline to meet) fairly precisely when we have to be there, and how long the trip is likely to take.  We know how far away the destination is, and we can plan specifically for travel expenses such as meals, lodging, transportation, and destination costs.  And we know why we are going, what we intend to do there, and when we’ll be done and ready to come home.

The second way of traveling is to enjoy the trip itself, to stop and smell the roses along the way, to find experiences as we go.  It’s the journey, not the destination, so I call this “journey travel.”  When we journey travel, the constraints may be less specific than those for destination travel: how prepared are we to see and do whatever experiences present themselves?  Can we be spontaneous, serendipitous, adventurous?  Do we have the resources of time, money, physical attributes, curiosity, and observation?  Sometimes, we may have constraints of time; we have limited vacation time; or appointments, responsibilities, or obligations for which we must return.  Aside from that, however, we are free to travel as far and as long as we wish, and go wherever the journey takes us. 

The third way of traveling is simply built on the desire to be on the move.  We have no specific destination, and we aren’t especially interested in what we can discover along the way.  We just want to be on our way.  This is what I call “motion travel,” and sometimes it is my main reason for travel and my favorite way to go.  When we motion travel the principal constraint is time.  How long can we be away; when can we get started and when must we return?  As we go, we can choose at any moment to stop for a moment or a while, visit someplace new or familiar, to discover or explore, or just keep moving.  There is the maximum amount of freedom in such traveling, and the least obligation.

It is, of course, possible to combine all the types of travel in a single trip.  Two summers ago, Sue (my spouse) and I set off on a trip that took us from Rhode Island, where we live, to New Orleans for the Jazz Festival, up along the Mississippi to Nebraska, then west to California, north along the Pacific to Washington, then back along the Canadian Border (and briefly across it), straight through the middle of New York and Massachusetts, and on back home.  We had only two specific destinations: the festival, and relatives in Washington state.  We were on the road from late April until mid July, and most of that time was unplanned in advance.  We stayed some places for a week or two, because we found something interesting, or beautiful, or new, and had the time and resources to do what the experiences offered.  We visited a friend in Florida, we explored the California Redwoods, we discovered a town in Arkansas that was steeped in the Americana and music we enjoy, found the Nobrara River in Nebraska, and made side trips along the Salish Sea and Puget Sound, and the northern edge of the Olympic Range.  But we also simply stayed off the interstates for long distances, not looking for anything in particular, but taking whatever came our way, small towns with pretty parks, funky restaurants, unusual and fascinating museums in places like Elko, Nevada, or Minot, North Dakota.  And sometimes, we just drove, with a CD playing music we could sing to, until we had gone far enough for that day.

We aren’t nomads.  We like the comfort and security of a home base, of a starting and ending point.  We have friends who have made their RV their home for years, now, and there is something appealing about going where you want, when you want, without having to be anywhere in particular in order to be home.  By combining destination, journey and motion travel in a single, extended trip, however, I like to think we have found enough of the freedom and adventure of nomad life to satisfy our needs.

And this is key, I think.  Let your travel, whether a few miles or across the country or around the world, meet your needs.  Your travel owes nothing to places, people, or time, except what you choose to give.  Travel as you will, and let that travel inform your spirit.  Let every trip be, first and foremost, your trip.

So, I would say to all who long to go, don’t overthink it.  There will be plenty of times when we just have to get somewhere; plenty of times when we just want to see what’s out there; and plenty of times when we just have to move.  But whatever the way you travel, travel consciously, travel joyfully, and travel on your own terms. 

WHAT SIDE ARE YOU ON? – AND WHY IS IT ALWAYS THE WRONG ONE?

In PeaceAble on January 16, 2024 at 1:53 pm

“A door is something my cat is aways on the wrong side of; and these days I think I know exactly how she feels.”

You have to choose.  You have no choice.  And you have to choose *this* way.  Or else.

This is where we are now.

On virtually every issue facing us, this is where we are now.

We’re told that we must choose a side.  And must do it right away.  Taking time to think about the issues or events, to consider how to choose, or even whether to choose is considered weakness, at least; or even worse, cowardice; or at the worst, complicity.  And then, having chosen, we are condemned by one side or the other.  Every choice now carries significant risk.  We may find ourselves threatened, attacked, vilified.  We find our lives, our professions, our families, everything we love, value, and need, being threatened, being destroyed.

Do you support Israel or Palestine?  Quickly!  Choose!  What’s that?  You support Israel?  So, you have no compassion for the suffering of the Palestinians, then!  You support the Palestinians?  So, you’re antisemitic, then!  What’s that?  You’re not taking sides?  Then the Zionists win!  Then Hamas wins!

Do you support Donald Trump, or Joe Biden?  Quick!  Choose!  Right now!  Today!  We’re taking a poll and we want to know who’s ahead, who’s winning.  Right now!  At this very moment!  Are you for Democracy or for fascism?  These are your only choices.  Ten months away from the election, these are your only choices.  What do you mean you’re studying the issues, trying to decide if there are any other possibilities?  What do you mean you don’t know yet how you’ll vote in the election?  Why do you hate democracy?

You say you don’t have enough information?  Why can’t you see that the answer is obvious; that there’s only one right answer, one right choice?  The situation is still developing?  Don’t you see that’s why you have to choose now?  If you wait for developments, you might choose differently, choose wrongly.  If you wait for things to change, then you’ll be to blame if they don’t change the way we want them to.  If they do change the way we want, then you’ll be left out, left behind.

We no longer have any patience for patience; we deliberately eschew deliberation; consideration has become inconsiderate; careful thought is recklessly unthinkable.

The world has become too complex for simple answers.  And simultaneously expectant of exactly those answers. 

There does come a point in most issues where a decision needs to be made, of course.  Life is always about choices.  Most of them are simple, mundane, spontaneous.  And the consequences of the choices are fairly immediate, not life-threatening, and clearly connected to the immediate choice.  Do you want chicken or fish for dinner?  Choose now or take what you get.  Should I wear the blue shirt, or the plaid?  Choose and discover whether you feel awkward or attractive. 

All our choices then lead inevitably to more choices.  Buy the new sofa and you realize the chair no longer matches.  You’ll have to get a cover for that.  Love that new pattern, but the rug doesn’t really fit any more.  Maybe you should paint the walls, get new curtains.  The living room looks great, but now the kitchen is looking like it needs some TLC.

But there are choices we need to make that can have literal life-and-death consequences for us, our community, our nation, our world.  Some are directly in our control, of course.  If I drive carelessly or dangerously, I may risk anything from a ticket and a fine to an accident that results in injury or death.  Such consequences are foreseeable and require us to take personal responsibility. 

The choices we make about larger issues and events, however, often have consequences that are just as serious, but which may seem somewhat distant from us, don’t affect us directly or immediately, don’t create any sense of individual responsibility.  Such choices, like who we support in an election, require us to understand our actions as part of the group, rather than just ourselves.  These decisions should be made with deliberation and thoughtfulness, based on the best information and evidence available to us.  Quick, emotion-driven choices can create the kinds of consequences that can take decades to unravel.

Choices of great import and vast consequence also have a moral component.  We need to consider the choices in light of what we believe, what our priorities are, what compromises we’re willing to make, how we wish to be seen in all our humanness by those whose opinions and esteem we most value.  These are the choices that are often presented to us with the loudest, most insistent, most passionate voices, by people with agendas we may or may not share.  These decisions should be approached, even if they need to be made quickly, with clarity of mind and conscience, lest we find ourselves in serious conflict with our deepest, most personal selves.

How much of the divisiveness and polarization of our society could be lessened if we allowed ourselves and others to make our own choices in our own way, without judgment, without blame, without categorization and without the simplistic reductiveness of either/or?  If we really want to find effective, comprehensive solutions to the problems we face, we need to learn to engage the fullness of our choices and choose as effectively as possible.  We need to find, each of us and the collective whole, the best answers we can, not just the quickest or most immediate or the most convenient.  And certainly not the ones promoted by the loudest voices or the most passionate.

What the F**k?:  The Decline of Words

In PeaceAble on January 5, 2024 at 1:15 pm

In the beginning, we were told, was the word; but I contend that there was never a word that ever existed that was not preceded by the existence of whatever it was the word was trying to express.  Eliminate the word, and what it was expressing will still exist, but we will be unable to know it or express it.

I’m going to assume that everyone reading this knows exactly what the third word in the title is.  If any of you would have been offended or disturbed in some way if I had written the word out without the asterisks, then does the altered version also offend?  If not, why not.  You recognize the word, you find it offensive or disturbing, so why does it not offend you?  And if you are offended, then what difference does it make whether I have used the alteration?

Popular social media has become not just prudish, but actually frightened by the use of certain words. They have created censorship and punishment algorithms that weed out those words in order to eliminate their use online.  As a result, many social media users have begun to do two things: self-censor their language, and seek inventive workarounds to evade the algorithms.

In addition to using asterisks or other symbols to substitute for specific letters, or even whole words, as in the title, users are employing a range of tactics.  They’re rearranging letters, creating nonsense words: fcuk.  They’re putting dots between the letters of the words:  f.u.c.k.  They’re blacking out or otherwise simply removing letters: f__k.  Sometimes, they are simply blacking out or leaving spaces for entire words, leaving imagination and context to, they hope, let the reader know what was intended.

And it isn’t just obscene language that is being elided.  They are altering or censoring any word or idea that they anticipate might cause any offense or disturbance whatsoever and alert the algorithmic overlords.  Words such as die, death, murder, rape, racism, homosexual references, racial or ethnic slurs, even words like hurt, are being routinely disguised.  Badly disguised, but disguised.

The censorship of obscenities has been a part of all kinds of public discourse and entertainment for a long time, but it has not always been the same.  Many of you may remember that, in 1939, the three-hour film, “Gone With the Wind,” was released with a degree of both scandal and titillation.  The film decency board had allowed it to be released despite some disturbing and objectionable content.  I’m not, of course, referring to the fairly graphic scenes of war and violence, including a long gruesome scene of the civil war dead, dying, and butchered soldiers laid out in a railyard.  I’m also not talking about the prominence of respectfully portrayed characters such as prostitutes and their customers, gun-runners, or libertines.  And, of course, the film retains the inherently racist stereotypes and thematic elements associated with the civil war era and the cultural norms of the first half of the twentieth century.

The scandalous content that the censors nonetheless allowed was one word, spoken by the principle male character in his very last line, almost at the very end of the movie, at the end of the three hours, when Rhett Butler says, “Frankly, my dear, I don’t give a damn.”  Guess which word.

Now ask yourself, are you offended by that word?  If it is spoken in a major film, or written in a novel, said in a podcast, or public broadcast of some kind, are you shocked, disturbed.  Do you blush or titter?  Do you write an angry letter to someone?  If you knew that word was buried somewhere in the text of a book your high-schooler has been assigned to read, or might just have available in the school library, do you storm into a school board meeting demanding the book’s removal?

We are becoming pre-emptively afraid of our own language.  And we are consequently doing to ourselves what George Orwell predicted would be done to us.  We are reducing the number of words we have available to us to express what we wish to express; and through that self-censorship, limiting our ability to think, to reason, and to try to resolve some very serious social, cultural, and personal issues.

Now, before I continue, I want to acknowledge that there are people who have suffered trauma, or injury, or prejudice of all kinds.  I know that some of those people find certain trigger words or difficult images and representations and depictions to be terribly disturbing.  And even the prohibitions enacted by the censors in 1939 used those things to justify their actions.  Warning labels, ratings symbols, and other public recognition of those words and images have become common.  But alerting those who might be harmed by those things is not the same as trying to hide them away, pretend we don’t see them, or that they don’t actually exist.

Acknowledging another’s pain is not the same as taking responsibility for it or assuming that we must protect them from it.  And the censoring of individual words or ideas does neither of those things, anyway.

Moreover, there is great danger for us as individuals, communities, societies, nations, and the world in the prohibition of words and ideas.  The simple fact is that what we cannot adequately express, we cannot ever resolve.

And substituting other words – or pretending that we aren’t actually using those words – means expressing our ideas and feelings less accurately and less effectively.  The words exist for good reasons.  Even our most disturbing vulgarities exist because they were necessary to express what we really mean.  And when we can no longer use those words, or they have lost their power, we must find new words for them.  If we don’t do that, then our most powerful thoughts and emotions will have no place to be expressed except through the power, often turned into violence, of our actions.

We used to talk about the marketplace of ideas, where everyone would be free to express themselves, so that their ideas could be tested, discussed, challenged, argued.  The end result would be, we were told, a natural evolution of thought, reasoning, knowledge, arts. Even faith, belief, and opinion would have a chance to be expressed and subjected to the forces of the marketplace.  But a healthy market, a vibrant, functioning market, requires more than just a limited number of choices, more than just either/or.

A healthy, vibrant market also requires that everyone have access to the market, and currency to spend.  Language is the currency of ideas.  Words are the tender by which we buy and sell our ideas, our knowledge, our beliefs.  When control of that currency is taken out of the market place, when the powerful have access to all the words they need to get what they want, but the rest of us are told we must be frugal, we must sacrifice, we must learn to live with less, then the market collapses and takes us all down with it.

If we are to save our democracy, if we are to make progress on the issues that challenge us, we need to have the words.  If we cannot talk honestly and truthfully, using the appropriate words, then we cannot solve the problems we face.

Now, we know that there are forces within the culture who want exactly that.  They want to keep us from talking about racism, about abortion, about homosexuality, about science, about the broad spectrum and diversity of faith and belief, about human rights, about the environment, about all those things (and this is nowhere near to a comprehensive list) that must be dealt with if we are to survive as a society as a people, as a world.

We must learn not to be afraid of our words.  The words themselves are not the problem.  The problem lies in what we need the words to express.  Sometimes, the words will seem be hurtful, they will be difficult to hear, we will struggle to understand them, we will be made uncomfortable by them; but it is the ideas, not the words, that are hurtful, difficult, misunderstood, uncomfortable, challenging.

So, let us reclaim the words.  Use them.  All of them.  The beautiful and the ugly ones; for as long as both beauty and ugliness exist in the world, they will need to be expressed.