There is an idea circulating that liberals seek things like civil rights, women’s rights, religious tolerance, LGBTQ rights, Native American rights, and so on, out of guilt; guilt about being male, about being white, about being Christian, about being whatever is the opposite of whatever they are championing.
Claiming that people act out of guilt is nothing more than an attempt to delegitimize their actions. If you are doing something out of guilt, we are told, then it’s a bad thing to do, it’s dishonest, it isn’t genuine. And it says to those who benefit from the work that the liberal activist doesn’t really care about you, it’s just guilt, so you should resent what they’re doing. And you should be glad that I, who am doing nothing for you, am not demeaning you or being dishonest to you out of guilt.
This idea of guilt is also associated with accusations of colonialism, of a supposed sense of superiority and entitlement. In discussing the social safety net, for example, it works for the liberal activist this way: 1. You feel guilty about the fact that you have plenty of food and a home and a comfortable life when others don’t; 2. This guilt is derived from your belief that you are privileged and therefore superior; 3. When you advocate for the poor you are acting out your superiority, telling the poor that they need your superior largess because they can’t do it themselves; 4. This makes them dependent on you and deprives them of some of their freedom because they believe they are entitled to what you want to give them. For the recipient it works this way: 1. The liberal doesn’t really care about you, he’s just feeling guilty because he has stuff you don’t have; 2. What the liberal is telling you is that he is superior to you and you aren’t good enough to do what you need to for yourself; 3. You should resent the liberal for his guilt and imperialism; 4. You need to learn to take responsibility for yourself instead of feeling entitled to help from guilty liberals; 5. We’re your real friends because we don’t feel guilty about our privilege and our wealth, and we want to give you the freedom to do it on your own, because we respect you.
In other words, if someone helps you they aren’t helping you, and if they don’t help you they are helping you.
What a crock.
Guilt is an illusionary emotion. It reduces complex events of cause and effect into simplistic arguments of blame. It masquerades as responsibility when it is really fear; it pretends to be empathy when it is really ego. Guilt imagines that if one suffers sufficiently, then the wrongs of the past are atoned for. And guilt doesn’t actually motivate action; rather, it seeks absolution and forgiveness.
Guilt is a much more showy and public condition than responsibility. Private, unexpressed guilt is a poison that slowly kills its host. The only way to rid oneself of guilt is to make it known, and by making it known seek forgiveness. On the other hand, we don’t seek to rid ourselves of honest and genuine responsibility, nor do we feel the need to make it public. Guilt emotes, responsibility acts.
Is it so hard to believe, especially among those who claim the mantle of Christianity, that any person, regardless of their political, religious, ethnic or other standing, might just have empathy, compassion, concern for another human being?
Is it not possible to feel a responsibility to correct historic wrongs without feeling guilty about the wrongs themselves? A white person who recognizes that people of color have been enslaved, oppressed, discriminated against, disenfranchised and marginalized by white people can certainly also see that something needs to be done to correct those things without feeling personal guilt. A man who sees that women have been disadvantaged and disenfranchised by a male-dominant culture can certainly also see that these things need to be corrected without feeling guilty. A heterosexual or cisgender person does not have to feel guilty about the historic treatment of LGBTQ persons in order to want to correct the injustices. When a wrong can be clearly seen, guilt is not necessary to motivate the desire to make it right.
If you feel guilty about something, examine it. How is the guilt helping you? What is it getting you? Replace the guilt with understanding and knowledge about what the real problems and issues are, and what can be done about them. Let your compassion come from empathy not from debt. Let the past, both cultural and personal, put wind in the sails of positive change, not throw out an anchor that keeps us from moving forward. And don’t listen to those who try to tell you that not feeling guilty means not having to do anything.
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